Strange days
Yes, the title a reference to the Matt Good song, for those of you who noticed!
Victoria is breakup city these days. Many people I know are just finding their way out of big and long relationships, some by choice and some by being dumped. In lieu of my desire not to do any homework between classes, I'll instead offer some thoughts on what it's like to be recently out of a big relationship. I am, for the record, speaking from experience.
First, one's social life becomes much clearer. We all know how some people, when they get into a serious relationship, dump many of their friends into the periphery for the sake of appeasing their infatuations with the new boyfriend/girlfriend. Infuriating as this may be, the other shoe always falls when said person becomes single again, looks to his/her friends, and finds far fewer of them. If you treat a friendship right, it's much more likely to last a long time than any relationship; that's something to remember. Bros before hos, chicks before dicks. The principle exists for a reason!
Another thing I find people going through after breakups (myself included) is a series of pendulum-like emotional extremes. For hours and days here, we feel free and invigorated; a whole new and exciting future awaits. Then for hours and days there, we feel low, tired, sad, hopeless, and so forth. Between these moods is a state of utter apathy, or emotional neutrality. Life is suddenly an exercise in blandness, where everything from sleep to sex to partying to studying impacts the psyche like white flour crackers. The events of life merely distract us from insanity.
So, what to do? There's not much one can do. Like most unpleasantries, all we can do is forget them, leave the baggage behind, and keep the lessons.
More later. I think it's time to write regularly.
Victoria is breakup city these days. Many people I know are just finding their way out of big and long relationships, some by choice and some by being dumped. In lieu of my desire not to do any homework between classes, I'll instead offer some thoughts on what it's like to be recently out of a big relationship. I am, for the record, speaking from experience.
First, one's social life becomes much clearer. We all know how some people, when they get into a serious relationship, dump many of their friends into the periphery for the sake of appeasing their infatuations with the new boyfriend/girlfriend. Infuriating as this may be, the other shoe always falls when said person becomes single again, looks to his/her friends, and finds far fewer of them. If you treat a friendship right, it's much more likely to last a long time than any relationship; that's something to remember. Bros before hos, chicks before dicks. The principle exists for a reason!
Another thing I find people going through after breakups (myself included) is a series of pendulum-like emotional extremes. For hours and days here, we feel free and invigorated; a whole new and exciting future awaits. Then for hours and days there, we feel low, tired, sad, hopeless, and so forth. Between these moods is a state of utter apathy, or emotional neutrality. Life is suddenly an exercise in blandness, where everything from sleep to sex to partying to studying impacts the psyche like white flour crackers. The events of life merely distract us from insanity.
So, what to do? There's not much one can do. Like most unpleasantries, all we can do is forget them, leave the baggage behind, and keep the lessons.
More later. I think it's time to write regularly.
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