Day 73
To expand on an earlier thought: I don't like to fight about nothing, but the fight is compelling.
Why is this? I don't know why. I'm sure the giant textbook for my introductory psychology class might offer a bunch of explanations, but I'm hesitant to buy any of them, for two reasons. First, the text will be 'outdated' in no more than a few years. Second, the explanations never really do a lot for the individual. Psychology is good at categorizing and pushing out some causal relationships from many correlative relationships, but it is all merely statistical; probabilistic.
I don't like the concept of the norm. It seems like an artificial generation.
This makes the notion of "non-conformism" an equal artifice.
One thing about relationships, at least among us responsibility-free youngsters and twenty-somethings, is that they're never what people say they are. I cannot count the number of times I've seen what by all appearances and assurances was an idyllic couple crash and burn without the slightest bit of warning. Was there no warning? Of course not. Outsiders just weren't privy to it.
Sometimes I'll have had a crush on a girl, who's in some big relationship and swears by its undying love and longevity (to my id's disappointment). I'll have given up on the crush, when suddenly poof, it's all over and she's suddenly single again.
The amazing part - and this happens every time - is how all the sordid, ghastly details inevitably surface after the so-called ideal relationship ends.
I don't mean to be cynical. I'm not saying there's no such thing as a good relationship, I'm just saying that most aren't what they appear to be. In fact, I might wager that the bigger a fuss someone makes about how great it is, the bigger the problems might be.
Not a fair move, inasmuch as it is akin to accuse someone of dishonestly for denying something, on account of that's what they would say if they were dishonest.
But still. It's hard to deny the evidence. And there's a lot of it!
Why is this? I don't know why. I'm sure the giant textbook for my introductory psychology class might offer a bunch of explanations, but I'm hesitant to buy any of them, for two reasons. First, the text will be 'outdated' in no more than a few years. Second, the explanations never really do a lot for the individual. Psychology is good at categorizing and pushing out some causal relationships from many correlative relationships, but it is all merely statistical; probabilistic.
I don't like the concept of the norm. It seems like an artificial generation.
This makes the notion of "non-conformism" an equal artifice.
One thing about relationships, at least among us responsibility-free youngsters and twenty-somethings, is that they're never what people say they are. I cannot count the number of times I've seen what by all appearances and assurances was an idyllic couple crash and burn without the slightest bit of warning. Was there no warning? Of course not. Outsiders just weren't privy to it.
Sometimes I'll have had a crush on a girl, who's in some big relationship and swears by its undying love and longevity (to my id's disappointment). I'll have given up on the crush, when suddenly poof, it's all over and she's suddenly single again.
The amazing part - and this happens every time - is how all the sordid, ghastly details inevitably surface after the so-called ideal relationship ends.
I don't mean to be cynical. I'm not saying there's no such thing as a good relationship, I'm just saying that most aren't what they appear to be. In fact, I might wager that the bigger a fuss someone makes about how great it is, the bigger the problems might be.
Not a fair move, inasmuch as it is akin to accuse someone of dishonestly for denying something, on account of that's what they would say if they were dishonest.
But still. It's hard to deny the evidence. And there's a lot of it!
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